Every time I come back to Detroit, it's always quite an experience, to say the least! I never quite know what to expect at any given moment. Also, mercury is still in retrograde so there is that as well. A friend from my high school invited me to her wedding a few months ago, so I decided, why the heck not just come to Detroit for labor day weekend! I always try to center a Detroit trip around some specific event or occasion. This trip around, I really tried to just go with the flow (other than the one thing I had to do). I found out on Instagram that my cousin (who lives in Alabama) was in town with her three boys too. I usually don't stay at my dad's house, but since this is a quick trip, I figured I can manage a few days. Sitting here typing on my little sister's laptop, I must say, if anything, coming back to my hometown is always extremely nostalgic. Everybody loves nostalgia, right?
Arriving at my dad's house, I always immediately go on a hunt for old stuff of mine or photos from my childhood. My parents too a million pictures and videos, so I try to collect as many as I can each time. There are a few notebooks that are still unaccounted for, so I try to look for those as well. While looking through memorabilia, my cousin stopped by with a bottle of some liquid memory invoker. We all just sat and talked for hours about all the old days. After a while, my sister, cousin and I went out to Royal Oak (which is a suburb of Detroit) to find a place to hang for the night. It's crazy how much things can change especially after not seeing them for a while. It looked like a completely different place than what I was use to in the past. Granted, when I did live here, most of the time I was under 21, but I'd never seen as many bars and clubs as there were. Not to mention, they were all charging astronomical fees to get in! We did manage to scheme our way into some free pizza at a place called Pieology (which had some really amazing pizza! I should see if they have a store in New York).
Yesterday was the wedding that I came to go to, so I got myself together for that before heading to Coney Island with my cousins, sister, dad, and aunt. I told these people I had to be at the wedding at 3pm, but I should know by now that when you don't have your own car, you have no say! I ended up getting to the church after 3:30. I opened the main church door, and the entire wedding party was staring at me in the face while the entrance organ music played! I tried to hurry and sneak in and sit all the way in the back. About 1 minute later, my friend (the bride) began walking down the aisle. Cutting it super close as usual! Anywhoooo, besides that part, the wedding was quite beautiful. My friend started to tear up as soon as she started her walk, which in turn, sorta made ME tear up for some strange reason. She really did it! She married somebody...for life! Forever is a long time...
After that, the reception was at a different location a few hours later, so I went around the corner to my aunt Judy's house. I hadn't seen my aunt Judy in a very long time, perhaps a few years. I actually use to live with her the summer after high school and right before college. She has a super huge multilevel house in the heart of Detroit. Even her neighborhood has began showing signs of gentrification. There was a lady next door to her who had an aerialist rope in her backyard...mind you, this is the HOOD, so it was a strange sight to see. My aunt gave us a tour of her house since she has "redone" it a bit. The house is absolutely amazing! She's an artist, like pretty much everyone in my family, so she has a few different theme rooms that she painted (pink, orange, magenta, blue, etc.), she has random art projects and different colorful curtains on each window. Ties hanging from the ceiling. There is a room on the second floor that she let's all of her grandkids draw on the walls, there is another room with only one single vase in the corner... her bathroom are all designed like some sort of installation...and I love. It. ALL! It's really super cool how she did everything, so me and my sister started to formulate all the ideas about what we could do with the space (we are all hippie hustlers obviously). We talked for a while about a bunch of events we could throw, classes, art drawing sessions, anything. I've realized this about my family, we all have so many ideas, and so much talent, but we're all very right-brained, and none of us have managed to find the balance of creativity and logical business sense. Someone come help us!
I ended up staying at my aunts house trapped, so I didn't actually make it to the reception (I'm very bad at adulting). Whitney came over too, so we were all just talking until the we hours of the night. So much to catch up on, ya know? Coming back to visit your hometown can go a number of ways, and for me it can go all of the ways at once, so I've learned to just start going with the flow while here, and not taking things too seriously. It can be hard maneuvering all of the people you think you have to visit, all of the places you have to see, go and do. Stressful right? Yea, these days, I barely tell anyone when I'm in town (other than an Instagram post or something). It's too hard to coordinate (and get around), so I stay put for the most part. I feel like when I'm a now out of towner, people should come to ME, right? If someone came to visit me in NYC, I'd go to them if I wanted to hang obviously. Whoever I see, I see, whoever I don't, I don't, we will all be just fine, I'm sure of it. I'm headed back to NYC soon, so as of right now, I can say that this time in Detroit went pretty smoothly in comparison. Changing my outlook really did help a lot. I'm glad it did. In life, we really do have to learn to be more open to changing our views on things. We can all be quite set in our ways at times. The world is changing, as too should we!
P.s. This was actually the first wedding I've ever been too all by myself. Super awkward! The only person I knew was busy the whole time! I'm sad I didn't get to the reception, but getting around while visiting here, is gonna be the next thing I have to work on.
P.s.s. I really do need a new on the go laptop. I seem to blog out of town more than I do at home!
P.s.s.s. The gentrification in Detroit is crazy! I just saw the new Q-line train, and also a huge new sports complex that they built right across the street from where I use to live downtown. And honestly, I've never seen so many white people. They are really all up in the hoods where I use to hang! I'm all for integration, it's just an interesting sight to see. I curious as to how this will develop over the years. Hopefully for the better. And hopefully the people who've been living here for generations can finally reap the benefits of the flourishing city.