I am generally a very firm believer of the phrase, 'As a man thinketh, so he is' (I've said this before, but the bible has all the good quotes). It is true! The words and phrases that WE use to describe ourselves seem to manifest into what we actually are. I think that is what some would call speaking it into existence. This is one reason why I've tried to stop mentioning negative things about myself (I'm too broke, I look crazy, even though I do). One sneaky little phrase does often sneak into my brain from time to time. Whenever I find myself thinking this thought, I try to snap out of it as soon as possible. What is this dreaded phrase you may ask? I'm bored!
I'm sure most of you know my life mostly consists of me being at home, watching lots of Law and Order SVU, and having conversations with my cat. Sure, to the naked eye, this seems to be a perfect recipe for lots of boredom. I do admit that spending a lot of time alone creates an illusion of there being not as much to do. We are around ourselves 24/7, no escape! Also, there is the fact of me not having a strict schedule to abide by, I'm certain most of you all don't really have that problem though. Some have the complete opposite problem. There are those of you who thrive under structure. Wake up at a certain time, breakfast, go to work, lunch, come home, dinner, relax a bit, sleep, repeat. Schedules! Filling up your life with constant things to do leaves hardly any room for boredom right? But the boredom phenomenon does exist in both instances of those with intense schedules as well as those with tons of free time. That being said, the actual cause behind being bored is quite hard to specifically define. I mean, there are so many things that we could be doing at any given moment, right?
I read an article about the science of boredom, and this scientist guy, Taylor Acee, stated, "Boredom is often experienced when an individual perceives themselves as being temporarily confined to a situation or activity that lacks value for one reason or another". Whether we are doing a bunch of nothing at home or a bunch of nothing at work, if we begin to feel unfulfilled, we will probably start to feel bored. I don't know about you all, but when I start to feel this feeling creeping its ugly head, I usually try to fill the void with something even MORE unfulfilling (like scrolling Facebook and Instagram or getting into a Youtube Beyonce k-hole). Boredom seems to beget more boredom! How then do we find ways to combat this terrible feeling? How dare I even claim that I'm bored when there is so much work that could always be done? I'm not rich or famous, or an expert in any sort of field, so what the heck am I doing being bored? Isn't that just lazy?
Perhaps boredom can stem from laziness in a sense. I know that when I don't feel like leaving the house on a Friday night, I often feel very conflicted shortly after because I SHOULD'VE gone out and now I have nothing to do but watch the snapchat stories of those who DID go out. First came the laziness, then came the boredom. Other times when I use to be bored at work, I realized it's because I was waiting around for the work to present itself to ME. I wasn't actually looking for things to do. Lazy! I'm sure there are other factors as well. Boredom is quite a complex topic that most people don't really take the time to fully dissect.
All in all, I actually think that boredom is a necessary part of life. Just like when a person feels a pain in their stomach. Yes, the pain sucks! But we need to feel that pain in order to figure out what the problem is and find a solution. If you find yourself feeling bored, ask yourself why. Perhaps you aren't being challenged enough. Perhaps you are unfulfilled and need to be doing more to add meaning to your life. I've also heard that boredom often leads to creativity! This past week I found myself getting a bit stuck in what to do next, so naturally, I did nothing! Sat in the house all day, no real plans, waiting for the world to entertain ME. While looking up random stuff on google, I remembered one thing on my to-do list said research guest blogging. I gave it a whirl and looked up a few articles. Fascinatingly enough, there is an entire online community of guest blogging! I never even freakin knew! I had been spending quite some time trying to get others to guest blog for me, but when that didn't pan out, I got sad, then I got stuck, then I got bored. Little did I know, there was another whole world out there! I got excited. That research lead to more research about the types of blogs that accept guest posts. There are so many people out there doing (for a living) what I'm trying to do. It was very inspirational. Naturally, I ended up staying awake until 7 am doing tons of research until my eyes couldn't stay open any longer. No more boredom. The key is to find something that you're passionate enough about to keep you stimulated. If you aren't, maybe it's time to switch things up, change your focus, or expand your viewpoint. I'm sure there will still be times when I do get bored, but the good news is, there is always something that can be done. Isn't it ironic how fascinating boredom can be?
P.s. After researching guest blogging, and reviewing my own blog subsequently, I realize how much work that can be done to improve this thing! Why didn't anybody tell me?? I basically still have my training wheels on! Don't worry, soon enough I'll be Tour De Francin' this blog...
P.s.s. I'm currently working on a guest post entitled, A list of things I've Googled before saying 'ok, it's REALLY time to go to bed now' (which is basically a list of random crazy things I've googled while bored and curious).
P.s.s.s. Speaking things into existence is super important as well. I try to never say out loud how bored I am even if I feel it strongly. I'm telling you, seeing is believing. Mediate and envision yourself un-bored. You'll be surprised at how it works.