Welp, we are officially in the eye of the major holiday trifecta storm. Don't worry, it'll all be over next Monday people! For now, we just have to ride the wave. I'm sitting at home alone again, which is totally fine with me. Being by myself on holidays is becoming quite normal actually. I did get more offers to hang out and do stuff than I did on Thanksgiving though, so I suppose that's nice. I may end up going somewhere a bit later, but first, I write about the holiday experience! From the point of view of Bretony of course...
I will try not to take up too much time today because one of the many gifts I'm giving to myself is a day of finally relaxing. Yeap, I've STILL been running around like crazy with a full schedule of obligations I crammed into almost every day. Businesswoman life! One crazy thing to me is how some stores still manage to remain open today. Give people a darn day to chill! I mean, I suppose I understand that some things still need to function; hospitals, fire department, gas station or whatever, but things like fine dining restaurants and bars shouldn't have mandatory staff. Perhaps a volunteer thing. If employees WANT to come in and work, they can, but don't make them choose between family and a job. Sheesh. With THAT being said, I do admit for the people who have nothing to do today, it's nice to have certain establishments open so I won't starve to death. I really do think it should be more of a choice for the worker though.
While this time of year does have its qualms in the eyes of some, especially the anti-religious (or the single individual), my favorite thing happens to be the overall world mood is generally a little lighter. People are a bit happier. Even if an individual might be sad or lonely, you can't help but feel the residual cheer from mostly everyone else. We all know about empathy for sadness, but it actually works the same for happiness sometimes. I use to scroll up and down social media on this day, very Scrooge-like, and turn my nose at everyone posting their families and all the presents they received, while I sat by myself eating a piece of toast or something. Now that I have a more encompassing understanding of myself and the people around me, I realize how irrational that was. Why be mad at someone else's happiness? Why does someone else's happiness seem like it detracts from my own? It doesn't!
One of my new favorite mottos is "If you're happy, I'm happy". In this day and age, I've come to realize that a wide range of things can equal happiness. If something that I find totally strange (or even annoying) is doing the job of bringing someone else a bit of joy in this crazy mixed-up world, who am I to tell them otherwise? If it doesn't physically, mentally, or emotionally harm another (or yourself. Did I cover all the bases?), I say go for it! I've also learned how contagious happiness can be. You ever see some random person just genuinely grinning from ear to ear? You don't even know what about, but in some weird way, it makes YOU want to grin? You ever been in a grumpy mood, but meet someone so full of joy that it brings you up, if even for a little while? Contagious! And that's what the holidays are sort of like (once I stopped fighting the urge to be the Grinch).
On a more personal note, this is now my 7th holiday season without a complete family. You know the movie Soul Food? Spoiler alert; the family basically falls apart without the glue (big mama) holding them all together. I can finally admit (eh, perhaps I've admitted it before) that mom really was the glue that held us all together and FORCED us to be a loving family (she would've probably made me come home for Christmas). Now we have to do it all on our own...and we kinda suck. We're trying though! In saying that, sure, I did use to get a bit annoyed seeing so many families during this time of year, but now I'm ok with it. I've learned that joy doesn't have a limited amount that only some of us can have while others are drained from it. We can all share! We can even share families when our own isn't around. Try to spread some joy today if you have more than enough. If you don't, just try to unclench, open up your pores, and let the joy from others seep in. Easier said than done, but like I said earlier, only one more life contemplating holiday to go for the year, so hang in there and stay tuned!
P.s. I've recently realized that my mom (and sometimes my older sister Holly) were the only ones in my family who ever inquired about my life. Like, my actual day to day life. Perhaps that's one of the reasons I feel so disconnected. I'm sure if she was still around, she'd be reading every single one of these blogs (and calling me immediately after to discuss each sentence).
P.p.s. I remember one year I was working at a cell phone store (some of you may remember from the "Gettin' By" golden years), and I was supposed to work one holiday (I think it was Christmas or New Years Day). The boss called me at 7 pm asking where I was. I said I was home in a "duh" kinda way. Apparently, I was supposed to OPEN the store and work all that day, but young and new to the workforce Bretony didn't think that ANY stores were open on holidays. Felt bad at the time, but now, what a cute little story!
P.p.p.s. I already know my resolutions for next week (which may turn out to be a surprise destination blog post), so also stay tuned to hear those!