Do any of you remember being young and getting reprimanded by your parents ( I know, I know, I have a ton of blogs that stem from some sort of childhood connection...but I actually do believe youth is where all of our first philosophies begin to formulate, whether we know it or not)? I'm sure most of you remember at least one instance (unless of course, you were a perfect little angel). Some parenting styles differ widely, but I do know that one particular style involves a "do as I say, not as I do" mentality. You know the parents who are always cursing around their kids, but have a strict no swearing stance? You know the type! As a youngin, it's very hard to grasp a concept like this. Why should I have to do something that you aren't doing yourself? And believe me when I say, "because I said so" is one of THEE most frustrating things I heard at that age. Little did we know that our parents were setting a hypocritical tone for the rest of our oblivious lives. Hypocrisy, I have found, is a very prevalent problem in society that often seems to go completely unnoticed. Why is that you may ask? Because at one point or another, we are ALL guilty! It's very easy to overlook, often hard to detect, and embedded in us all from such young age. To this day, I know that I struggle with being a hypocrite in some areas. I have since been trying to work on this within myself, but the first step is definitely identifying that there is a problem to begin with.
Now, a hypocrite in the general sense is something that everyone may be familiar with already (telling someone not to be slutty, but they are the ones cheating on their spouse, or something like that). But honestly, I have discovered many more everyday hypocritical nuances within myself alone. Let me give an example. I really hate when people stand me up for things. Like, if you make a freakin' plan, just stick to it! Don't make me change around my entire schedule to accommodate seeing you, and then at the last minute, you change your mind. Who does that?? Actually... me! I do that! I've realized that yes, I have also done this to people. I'm not sure why I feel as though my reasons are more justifiable than the ones who do it to me, but that is just how my brain works. This is obviously just one very small example. I'm sure if I were to analyze my hour by hour activities, I would find many fallacies.
It is so much easier to see the faults in others than it is to see the faults in ourselves. No truer words have ever been spoken! With almost every news story I seem to come across about politics, racial tensions, or some other heavily controversial topic, the hypocrisy in viewpoints is blinding. This is mostly why I say nothing when it comes to anything arguable. I try to rather look inward, into my own life. It's MUCH easier to have an opinion about someone else's issues, but we should probably first work on our own. I don't want to get mad at people who are merely guilty of doing the same things that I do. I don't want to judge others, then complain when I am judged myself. I don't want to preach about the "right" way of doing something when I do not do it that way either.
What I DO want to do, is become a glimmering beacon, a shining example, of what I would like to see spread throughout the world. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you seems like a fitting quote. The morals and values that I express should also be the ones that I exhibit...duh! Sounds simple enough right? Practice what you freakin' preach people! On paper, it sounds like the easiest thing in the world, although I know it's pretty far from it. Is it the fact that no one wants to be the first to just set the example? Are we waiting for someone else to do it and we follow? We need to be the change we want to see. Don't wait for someone else. Because honestly, depending on others to come around could take quite some time. And ain't nobody... y'all know what I'm trying to say. This is something that I am actively working on each day. I'm not sure if I will ever be perfect at it, but the best I can do is try. If at least for today, try to examine how to be more sympathetic to those who exhibit the same unsavory behaviors as we do. Sharing an example of your own wavering could be a bit better received than "telling someone about themselves". We're all in this together!
P.s. I use to always think the Hippocratic oath that doctors took was (ironically?) pretty darn hypocritical at times, especially in America.
P.p.s. Another example of some everyday hypocrisy (that literally happens every 2 seconds), is the judging of celebrities. It's like every little thing they do, wear, say, think, post gets scrutinized by probably the same people who do, wear, say, and think the exact same. (for example; best/ worst dressed at awards shows. Even the WORST of the worst dressed at ANY awards show is probably better than the best thing in MY dang closet, sooo...)
P.p.p.s. I just thought this was pretty darn hilarious