I've been thinking about this subject for quite some time... and like most things I usually think about for quite some time, it's very multi-dimensional, and I'm not sure I can fully capture the complete essence in just one mere blog post. Alas, I will give it a whirl! This week's blog will be about what this entire website hopefully is about. The truth! And nothing BUT the truth. Every once in a while, I have to ask myself though, is the truth really something that people want to hear? We say that it is, but the TRUTH is, the truth can somehow often make us feel worse than a lie. This is the case for a few different realms of life as I have come to know it. Even things as mundane as health and beauty products. They SAY they do one thing, but do they really? Companies just tell us things because they want us to buy their products, very seldom do they disclose every truth that the general public needs to know. Is this the world we have come to live in?
As you all know, I was in my hometown of Detroit this past week (which in another story in itself. perhaps I will blog about that next week). I got to spend a lot of time with my awesome niece and nephew (who are growing up so freakin' fast... I feel like I just saw them in the delivery room). I've been learning a lot from these growing kids. Mostly that they fight every 2 seconds with each other. Also, I learned that lying begins at such a young age. Now this is generally speaking, but I believe children are conditioned to become liars. When a kid does something a bit unscrupulous, or mischevious, they learn that upon being honest with their parents, they get in trouble. Usually. Upon learning this information, they figure, a lie WON'T get them in trouble, so they begin to develop a coping mechanism known as lying to get out of trouble. I'm sure we have all done this. Heck, I've done it plenty of times.
As we grow older, this same schematic is developed in friendships and relationships. If a relationship isn't initially built on complete and unjudged honesty, a lie will usually preserve said relationship long past it's needed expiration date. With a friendship, telling people about themselves can usually result in the end of the friendship. I admit that I'm not the most empathetic friend in certain situations, which is something that I've recently realized, but I'm for SURE an honest friend. This is because I like to tell the unfiltered truth. Which I've also recently found out... no one really wants to hear in it's raw form! Just like no one really likes anything in the raw. Have you ever tried something raw or in it's purest form (like black coffee or a raw food diet type of food)? To most people, it's terrible without a sugar coating! But guess what? That raw version is always better for you in the long run.
On the spectrum between lying without getting in trouble, and telling the truth without people getting mad at you, I have discovered a sort of sweet spot. There is a way to tell the truth without being rude of insensitive. It's not that we don't know HOW to tell the truth or that we don't want to, we just have to find a way to do so based on our audience. A person like Kanye West or Trump (who I find extremely annoying with their "truth"), is actually commendable in a way, however, they tell "the truth" without thinking about who is on the receiving end. We can adjust the way we tell the truth depending on who is on the receiving end.
They say ignorance is bliss. I like to consider myself a fairly blissful individual, yet I still manage to be informed about everything that I possibly can. Real bliss comes from the mental perception shifts of all the "inconvenient truths" as necessary and admirable. We should learn to accept the truth for what it is, and not get mad whenever someone else is brave enough to share such truths with us. It is definitely a difficult concept to grasp, but I am working on it. I began this blog on the basis of truth. I know that there are opinions surrounding this truth, so I hope that it can one day be accepted in it's complete raw form. Be raw people!
P.s. I was talking about this with my friend Whitney when I was back in Detroit, but we actually got suspended for a very truthful sandwich letter we sent to a classmate of ours in middle school. In the letter, we began with something nice, in the middle was the truth we had to say about her (she was fake as heck, and got a lot of favoritism), and ended with something encouraging! I though the approach was quite commendable for a middle schooler! We still got suspended though.
P.p.s. I really need to watch the movie "An Inconvenient Truth".
P.p.p.s. This is why I believe only a true friend of mine would actually tell me something a bit unsavory to my face. (i.e. You have some crazy ugly camel toe in that outfit). I need friends like that!