Hello everyone, and happy summer! This is the time of year where all of the hermits come out of their winter/spring hibernation to enjoy the warmth of the sun on their pasty skin. Which is exactly what I've been doing this past week! When you don't have a set schedule of work, things can get pretty spontaneous. So many invitations to so many things. As adults, we get to choose exactly how we are going to plan and divide our time based on a number of factors. However, I've realized that there is really only one factor...
Everyday, we are faced with so many choices. These choices can range from little things, like which size latte to get at Starbucks, or big things like, whether or not to say yes to a marriage proposal. I've come to find out, through years and years of analyzation, that at the end of the day, the deciding factor is based solely on our wants. As children, we don't get to express ourself through choices as much. Our choices are made for us for the first portion of our lives. Perhaps because at that age, we aren't use to making decisions. We probably didn't even know what that word meant! Every choice that was needed to be made was made FOR us. At some point in life, the responsibility switches, and we get to have all of the power.
This particular topic came to mind while out one day with an extremely dull person (which will not be identified, but they wont read this anyway) . While suffering through the monotonous conversation, I thought to myself, why the heck am I still sitting here? Why don't I just get the heck up and go? Who is forcing me to be here? No one! Technically though, it would probably be frowned upon if I were to just get up and leave. The socially acceptable thing to do would be to just suffer through the interaction for however long it may take. I know that certain circumstances of this can vary, but it did make me think of why it is that people do things they don't really wanna do.
I'm at the point in my life where I shouldn't be wasting time and energy doing anything I don't really want to be doing. And neither should anyone else. Don't want to do something? Don't do it! Don't want to go somewhere? Don't go! Don't want to hang out with a certain person? Just be honest with them. We shouldn't create unnecessary obligations for ourselves. A lot of us get caught up in doing things that we don't want to...for whatever reason. There is a better way people.
These days, I seem to do less and less of what I don't want to do, and much more of what I do want to do. I have a quote I sort of live by, "do everything you love, some things you don't like, and nothing you hate". Being honest with yourself and the people around you will prove to be a helpful tool when deciding to do the things you want as oppose to the things you "have to or should". Just something to think about!
P.s. I really hope this post makes sense. I've been writing it on and off throughout the day. Beach day!
P.p.s. You know that movie (and book) he's just not that into you? This subject kind of reminds me of that. If a person doesn't really want to hang around you or be with you, it's pretty clear. Why prolong the inevitable by trying to convince someone to do something they really don't want to?
P.p.p.s. It would be pretty rude if I randomly got up in the middle of dinner with someone and said, "I'm bored. Going home now, bye!" But ya know, there's a less unsavory way to get the point across I'm sure.