On my eternal quest to write the next great American novel (or non-fiction masterpiece) this year, I have gone through many an idea as to what the subject matter should entail. What mark do I want to initially present to the world? First impressions are everything...or so we've been told. I tried to think long and hard about an all-encompassing topic that will transcend traditional methods of thought as we know it. One of the ideas that I came up with was actually a pretty simple one, at first glance. The phrase that came to me was, "Where It All Went Wrong". With all of the problems in the world today. With everything becoming increasingly more difficult and complex in the way we live our lives. With the current state of humanity becoming one huge, jumbled up, confusing ball of misunderstanding and hatred, it's kind of hard to get a grip on what's what! How did it all get like this? Who is to blame when it all boils down to it? But more importantly, does it even matter anymore?
The history of this world is for sure, a confusing one. When I was younger, I used to think everything was so black and white. Things were clear! Right was right, wrong was wrong, up was up and down was down. God was the unquestionable ruler and creator of everything, Christopher Columbus discovered America, and Santa Claus was coming to town every December 25th. When you are young and impressionable, you take the answers to your questions as the undeniable truth. What reason is there to object? I believe that this was the basis (in everyone's life) for the confusion about what EXACTLY was wrong with the world. How are we to even know what the truth is nowadays? Sure we can do our "research", but who is gathering the data for this research? Who's collecting this evidence? Who's researching the researchers? These days it seems like I'm living in one big ole Matrix, and my naked body is floating somewhere in a freestanding pod tower.
But anywho, I say all of this because, in my tangent-prone brain, I actually tried to find the source of where it all really DID go wrong. Who or what is to blame for all of the chaos? I think I've finally narrowed it down to Adam and Eve (for all intents and purposes). Yeap, that's right people. Every single problem that the world is facing is ALL because of them. Sounds silly right? I thought about it a little bit more and I realized... people do a lot of freakin' blaming! The most obvious example I can think of is war. Pick a war, any war. Now, try to go back to who "started" the war. I put "started" in quotations because it can be interpretable. One side could have made the first strike, but then again, the other side could have done something to provoke that strike (in the mind of the opposing side). Then again, the thing that that side did could have been because of an, even MORE, preemptive thing the OTHER side did. And so and so forth until... who knows WHO the heck started it?
There comes a time when we really just have to stop all the blaming. From the biggest problems in our lives, right down to the smaller ones. Because at the end of the day, if we really wanted to, we could probably trace every single indiscretion all the way back to the beginning of time if we wanted to. This next paragraph may be a bit of a reach, but it's a taste of the rabbit hole mind of Bretony, so bear with me!
Let's say you tripped and fell, spilling a cup of hot coffee all over a stranger's white dress. Yikes! I'm sure that stranger would most CERTAINLY blame you, right? But little does this person know, you were rushing because the person at the coffee shop took so long making your order. And little do YOU know, the coffee shop was short staffed because one employee hadn't arrived yet. The employee hadn't arrived yet because they overslept. They overslept because they stayed up all night watching "The Office" on Netflix. They were binge watching "The Office" because that show is so engrossingly hilarious, they couldn't stop watching. The show is so hilarious because the writers studied long and hard and spent hours making the best possible script they could. This happened because the writers were born. They were born because their ancestors were born. All the way up the chain, and ba da bing, Adam and Eve, the culprit yet again!
Yes, yes, I know. I've officially lost it. However, the meat and potatoes of my message remain true. We can blame the problems in our lives on other people and things all day long, but in the end, if everything is in shambles, it really won't matter who's to blame, other than for our own justice, revenge, and punishment implementation. And that in itself can often prove to be even more destructive. Let's stop worrying about who's to blame and start focusing on how to move forward and fix what has been damaged. The stranger in the white dress could waste precious time being mad at you for spilling the coffee, OR she could high tail it to a bathroom and vinegar that thing out before it sets. Too much time is wasted on how the problem came to be as opposed to a solution. Even after some naturally occurring disasters, like an earthquake, we focus on blaming the craftsmanship of certain structures. That won't bring the structures back. The best thing to do is learn whatever new information we can from the past, and build something even stronger, and better than ever.
p.s. Today's blog is definitely for the deep thinkers. There are so many more tangents I could go on, but what do you all think about the subject of blame?
p.p.s. No, but seriously, though, I'm super confused about the history of the world....
p.p.p.s. Stay tuned for the book!