Hello everyone! Hope the weekend was good to you all. Mine was super fun! My long time turn-up pal and new first time mommy, Mickey, had her 30th birthday on Easter. Me and the NY crew took a mini road trip to Philly to help celebrate. When all you youngins reading this get up to my age, you'll realize that birthdays are one of the only things that bring all your friends together. Sad, but true! So I'm very thankful for each and every one...also the cake. The cake part is good. Even though me and my friends are for the most part all grown up, with our own lives, relationships, apartments, and cars (and metrocards), the one things that I have realized this weekend, is that all of us are still in limbo career-wise. We are all pretty much still figuring out what it is we ultimately want to do for a living. Which is kind of funny because we are all doing SOMEthing for a living obviously... but what about our passions? How did you answer that age old question "what do you wanna be when you grow up"?
When I was growing up, I wanted to be a number of things. My oldest sister claims that she remembers me wanting to be an architect. I do remember my late grandpa writing me letters with hand drawn building designs, so perhaps there is some truth to that. The first thing I probably remember legitimately wanting to be was a movie star/ tv show host like my mom. My parents really did film the crap out of me and my younger sisters though... I wasn't mad at it! Another thing I was really interested in was cosmetology. Most people probably don't know this about me, but I'm really good at doing hair. I use to do literally everyone's hair in my entire family (this includes my dad). I am also very into nail art. I realized I probably couldn't make an entire career out of it when I realized how LITTLE patience I have for multiple people on a day to day basis. Folks are picky about their hair and nails! There was a brief point in time when I thought I wanted to be a pastry chef...but I think I just wanted to eat a lot of sweets everyday. As I got a little bit older, and began to think about a major for college, I settled on wanting to be a lawyer. I absolutely love to argue, and play devil's advocate ( I am also fond of Law and Order...but mainly SVU). I switched later to psychology as a major because I discovered the legal system to be too darn corrupted. I also thought about being a marriage counselor ( I like to play mediator too). All of this is to say that I really don't know what ONE career would encompass all of these fancies, but I DO know that I won't give up on becoming something that I love doing each and every day.
As adults, we grow up and tend to forget all about the hopes and dreams we once had as children. What ever happened to actually believing that we could be anything we wanted to be? These days I've come to realize that money motivates a lot more than anything else. People usually go with whatever can give them a higher paycheck. I know it sounds super practical to think like that, but here's another thought... what would you want to do if money wasn't a factor at all? In what way do you want to contribute to society and make your mark on this world? We all have some sort of passion burning inside of us. Don't stifle all your passions with practicality. It's never too late to do what you love every single day of your life, instead of being bound to a life of hourly servitude.
Settling down on a specific career at this point in life can be a pretty hard thing to do. As you can see from the previous paragraphs, I changed my mind numerous times. Our desires change and grow as WE change and grow. We see the world differently than when we were children. It's ok if I change my mind a hundred billion times, maybe I'll just try out every single job in the whole world to decide which one I like the best. Why the heck not? It's most certainly a scary thing to even attempt to do what you love for a living. Also, it may be a bit difficult financially, so yes, having something to pay the bills may be necessary in the beginning. The point I really want to get across today however, is simply to not forget those desires we have inside. That we've had inside all along. It's so easy to forget what we really want, when we are so consumed with the things we feel we need. Life isn't just about what's necessary though. I also highly recommend trying a bunch of new things to find out what it is you are vehement about. Even my friend Ashleigh for example, before she was a flight attendant, she had a number of jobs. She even worked at a super corporate place that gave her a company car AND expense account! One day on a flight back to her hometown, one of the attendants told her about being a flight attendant. Next thing I knew, she was in a whole new line of work....and she LOVES it! So, what do YOU want to be now that you're grown up?
p.s. I've actually always wanted to take an aptitude test. I wanna see what a computer has to say about all of this!
p.p.s. In doing what it is that I love, I still have YET to find a decent way to make a living from doing so. One of the major reasons why is because I'm not selling anything. Still taking suggestions! (and donations!)
p.p.p.s. Does anybody reading this have a really cool career or job? Please share! Mainly because I know a bunch of no job havin' gypsies. It would be interesting to hear a different point of view.