For a person like me, with so much free time on my hands, and not too many "set in stone" obligations, from time to time I indulge myself in a bit of television. Lucky for me, I have a theory that nothing I do is ever really a waste of time, so that's how I can justify my binge watching! My little sister got me into this weird show called Westworld, so I had to catch up on a bunch of episodes last night. In the middle of THAT however, I realized it was the premiere of my boo Mariah Carey's new reality show. By the time I realized, the show was half over so I only caught the last 30 minutes. Say what you will about reality tv, but I kind of like (some aspects of) voyeuristically watching an exaggerated production of people's lives. I have been a Mariah Carey fan for as long as I remember. I was one of those people who thought they could hit all of the high notes on every song (and I can, but that's neither here nor there). All in all, I was initially drawn to that magical voice of hers, but thanks to the invasive properties of social media and gossip blogs, I now know a lot more about her personally (probably a little too much, but that's fine). Watching the show last night, I've come to find out, I basically AM Mariah. She even does random British accents and has multiple personalities! Anywho, Mariah may be a bit over the top for some, but I think we can all stand to learn a bit from Miss Mimi about our own self-worth.
Before even watching the show, I'm sure we've all heard quite a few things about how diva-like she can be. From what I saw, the show was no different! She demanded an apple tv in her hotel room or she couldn't sleep. She had to wear sunglasses in fluorescent lighting. She has like 4 people to help her put on her shoes. Also, every confessional scene was her basically draped in diamonds and lingerie on a chaise lounge sipping wine. I loved it! She's dramatic, she's over the top, she's a bit out there, but she knows what she wants and she knows that she can get it. Mariah is the ultimate definition of "knowing your worth". Some people label her a diva like it's a bad thing to know exactly how you want to live your life....however luxurious that may be. Why is that so wrong?
A few weeks ago, I talked about how women should really know their worth in order to not stand for abuse. It seems as though a super confident woman is looked down upon, or labeled something derogatory. Why shouldn't we be treated like the princess, queens, and goddesses that we truly are? The thing is, a lot of women out there don't really think they are worthy of being treated this way. 'We don't have voices like Mariah, so we have no reason to demand the things we want out of life like that.' Wrong! You can demand whatever your little heart desires. Go for it. You know what gives us the reason to do so? Being born. Every single one of us is worthy of all the things we want. Yes, not having money can get in the way from time to time, but that doesn't mean we should not stop wanting what we truly want. At times we may even feel like we don't deserve to be picky, and that we should just take what we can get. Wrong again. Be as picky as you want. This is your life. Why should you have to settle?
It took me a very very long time to get to a point in my life where I felt like I deserved all of the amazing things life has to offer. This includes everything from tangible objects to relationships, to opportunities, and everything in between. There have been people telling me I'm not good enough, not pretty enough, too poor, etc. A lot of things in this world can make a person feel quite worthless. Being constantly compared to others is one way. Another way is people telling you that you have nothing to offer the world. Let me tell you something, if I had zero talent to my name, I STILL wouldn't sell myself short. I am me. My personality alone is enough to bring joy and light to this earth. This world is selfish. Everyone is always wondering what someone else can DO for them instead of appreciating people for WHO they are. I've also realized that relying on outside influences most likely won't help. We have to come to know our worth for ourselves. When we believe in something with such conviction and confidence, others will start to automatically see and believe that as well. How else do you think certain restaurants can charge such varying exuberant amounts for the same item? Some are much more confident that people will buy things at the higher price they set. I've recently discovered that a popular NYC venue uses the EXACT same fries as Mcdonalds, but charges almost a %300 markup...plus tax and tip of course.
All in all, yes, Miss Mimi is an extreme case of knowing your worth, but dammit, she's a great example if you ask me. Even the separation from her fiance has seemed to leave her unfazed. If someone doesn't want to be with you, or if they are not up to your standards, there's no need to be upset because you know that you are amazing enough to find someone who WILL be. I have learned to stop selling myself short, I hope that others can as well. Even though this world probably wouldn't be able to function with a bunch of Mariahs running around, I think it's good to at least channel a bit into everyday life. With all of that being said, I'm gonna go slip into my finest threads, go find some wine to sip, and lounge around for a bit. Actually, I should be getting dressed to go to a Christmas party I was invited to... but even if I'm a bit late, I know it's fine. Good things come to those who wait. (I'm that good thing. I'm talking about me.).
P.s. I have always wondered how people come up with prices for things in life. Like, if I were to sell something, how much should I charge? Being an independent contractor and working for yourself, I think it's one of the most important decisions to be made. If you know you have something awesome, start the price as high as you can. Of course there can always be a sale, but starting high isn't a bad thing. Lots of people place different value on the same item.
P.p.s. I really do have to find a link to the full episode. If you know any working sites, please share them!
P.p.p.s. This post may seem like it's just for women, but it's for guys too! I think that society looks at confident women and men a bit differently, but there is room at the top for everyone, so come on up!