It's so crazy how when we were little kids, every year seemed so painstakingly long. Every school year was an eternity, and every birthday was lightyears away. As an adult, you barely have time to blink between New Years Eve celebrations! Why is that? When I'm 90 will the years go by even quicker? Or will they begin to slow back down again? Eh, regardless, yet another year has come and gone in the blink of an eye. This particular season is always a very reflective time. I'm sure for everyone. I happened to take a peek back at my resolutions list from 2015, let's all take a look, shall we!
I actually did do quite a lot of the things I said I would do, but also there are some major things that I did not get a chance to do. I still have a few weeks left though, we shall see! This is also the time of year a lot of people like to generally reflect. What went right, what went wrong. A new year is a chance to cleanse for a lot of people. Some do a more extreme cleansing than others, but whatever floats your boat. You might see that my resolutions are mostly proactive items as opposed to things I want to cut out. That's generally how my life is, I focus on the positive and what I can be doing instead of what I shouldn't be doing or things I need to get rid of. The separation anxiety of getting rid of stuff is real! But as my mom always use to stay, "You shouldn't bring nothing new in until you get rid of some of the junk you don't need anymore."
As you may have noticed on the list above, one of my resolutions was to find a decent hairstyle. I have had hair struggles for quite some time now. This is one of those situations where "if I only knew then what I know now" seems to fit perfectly. When I was younger, I had a nice thick head full of wavy/ curly hair. Those were pre-internet days (and pre-pro natural black hair days), so all I ever wanted to do was straighten it so I wouldn't have to fight to manage the tangles every day. Over the years, I have incurred quite a bit of damage between colorings, straightening, chemical processes and more. Realizing a few years ago that I should probably stop destroying every follicle, I decided to ease up a bit on doing much of anything to my hair at all. This doesn't mean that I have it all figured out! As of now, my natural hair texture is in some sort of weird limbo between wavy at the root and straight at the ends. It's very frustrating. In searching for answers on Youtube, I came across two different methods for dealing with my particular problem; transitioning, and the big chop.
I will begin by saying, there is no right or wrong method, there is only a personal choice one has to make. The transitioning route is basically what I'm doing right now, which is letting the over-processed hair grow out on it own while keeping protective styles. This can take a short time or a very long time depending on your hair type, length, and the amount of damage. The other method is pretty self-explanatory... you get rid of all that scraggly crap asap! And this is more than just a trim. I'm talking half of your hair length or more. Gone! Chopping it all off can be a bit extreme for some people, and possibly even life-changing. But... I've heard great things! Getting rid of all that damage in an instant will literally lift the weight right off your shoulders. You will be able to start fresh without worrying about all the uneven textures in your life.
In true Bretony form, metaphorically relating chopping off damaged hair to chopping off any other damaged part of your life seems only right. It's all connected! Some of us just have a hard time letting go of the familiar. The comfortable. We are afraid to start all over again from scratch. There is a great quote I saw somewhere, not sure who said it but it goes, "Don't cling to a mistake just because you spent a lot of time making it". Then again, there are those who feel the need to transition. Ripping a band-aid off slowly may seem like it hurts a little less to some. Sometimes people have to warm up to the idea of getting rid of something that has become a part of their everyday routine. As I said before, it's a personal decision. From time to time, the new year gives people the confidence to shake things up a bit. Try something new. Let go of something they've been slowly letting go over such a long period of time.
The first step to everything is admitting there is a problem. Once I came to terms with the fact that my hair was being mistreated, I made the decision to change. I do believe that it would be a lot easier to just cut it perhaps, but I've chosen to work with what I've got (for now). In some aspects, I'm definitely more so a big chopper, but every once in a while, I'll hold on due to familiarity and transition. I have yet to make my resolutions list for next year, but I'm curious to see if I will be able to fully cut out some of my bad/destructive habits (and/or people, places, and things). Whatever path I do choose... eh, I was trying to think of something super profound to say, but at the end of the day, we're all gonna do what's best for us! I'll keep ya updated on my hair saga. The story continues!
(Idk why, but I love watching videos of people cutting all their hair off!)
P.s. A lot of people like to transition as oppose to chop because of the unknown (i.e. I wonder how I would look as a bald head broad). It's a scary thought, but you'll never know unless you give it a try. (There are always wigs!)
P.p.s. One other thing I know a lot of people like to transition with is food. Dieting is probably one of the number one resolutions I hear about. People try to cut out all sorts of stuff for the new year... sugar, dairy, meat... all the good stuff! For that, I definitely think taking it one day at a time is preferable. However, unlike cutting off your hair, you can always go back to the foods you cut out.
P.p.p.s. I may have said this in a previous post, but NYE doesn't have to be the only time to make dramatic changes, it's just the most popular time. Feel free to make drastic decisions all year long!