The older I continually get each passing moment, I try to keep track of all of the sayings I hear that make sense. All of those cliche' quotes people say that are universally true. One of my favorites just so happens to be never say never (which also happens to be the title of a very awesome Brandy album). The sheer simplicity of this phrase, and it's irony alone, are what make it so linguistically appealing and memorable. I suppose this is also why people tend to overlook it as an actual cautionary tale. We really should NEVER say never! Generally speaking ofcourse.
Back when I was a young lass, my life was so different than what it is right now. So many differences that I don't even think I can name them all. Never did I imagine I would turn out to be the kind of person I am right now. This is all because I try to not limit myself when it comes to trying new things. Ofcourse sometimes there are things that I write off immediately. For instance, a few of my friends have often suggested that they would like to go sky diving.... Now, at first thought, me plummeting to the very hard ground from 30,000 feet in the air does NOT seem like something that I would be very into, ya know? This is something that I've actually said I would never do. I have no desire at all! However, who the heck knows! The way my friend described it DID sound kind of exhilarating. Even though the mere thought scares the crap out of me, I shouldn't completely right off an opportunity to experience something amazing.
Without getting into too much detail, I will also say that I have said I would NEVER do a number of things when it comes to relationships. I'm sure a lot of you out there have your very specific list of qualifications for your futures boos: "I'll NEVER date someone shorter than me, a different race than me, a poor guy... I'll never do long distance", etc. We can name all of these things we think want in a perfect partner, but the fact is, if someone comes along and simply sweeps us off of our feet, we shouldn't fight the feeling just because we swore we would NEVER.
To my close friends, my despise of vegans is no secret. I haven't really gotten into that subject in a blog before, even though I have really wanted to! One of my main issues with the Vegan cult is that they are so darn limiting! I understand that people have certain beliefs and what not, but my word! Have you ever tried to go to dinner with a vegan? You can't have crap! I'm a hungry little heffer, and I don't like to tell my stomach what it CAN'T have. It get's angry with me. Why make things so complicated, especially when it comes to a thing we HAVE to do multiple times a day? Instead of worrying about all the things we shouldn't be eating, let's just freakin eat.
Growing up, I was raised in the church. Christian to be exact. I always liked church really (besides that fact that I had to wake up at the crack and be hungry and sleepy for multiple hours). I loved the songs, I loved how everyone was like one big family, and I even loved the things the preachers would say. Without getting too deep into the rabbit hole of religion, I will say this... one thing that always made me leary was all of the things I could NEVER do (according to Christianity). It just seemed like there were so many things that I couldn't do! Not like I wanna go out and break all 10 commandments one by one, but there are even MORE things in addition to the 10 that apparently should NEVER be done. So much limitation in life. I just wanna live.
My personal belief is that I should never completely write off anything. As a human being in this world, I am capable of just about anything, so why put up my own road blocks? Which brings me to an even harsher realization about myself. In this very blog, I have stated how I can NEVER work for the man again! As sad as this makes me, from this moment forward, I'm not completely writing that off. Trust me, it is still very undesirable, but if an opportunity presents itself, I shouldn't go against it because of a silly self proclamation. We should always be open to opportunity, to new things, to new experiences. Life has so much to offer, so why not?? New things may be totally scary, totally not what we were planning on, totally against the grain of how we planned our life, but when you just succumb to giving into saying yes and giving a try, trust me, It's so worth everything. Think about something in your life you have been resisting, been fighting against, or saying you'd NEVER do. Give it a try!
p.s. This may sound kind of whorish of me, but I often do not understand the concept of marriage in the fact that you have to remain with that one person forever and NEVER be with any one else EVER. It just seems so limiting of a thing for the rest of your life. I guess the tax breaks are nice though.
p.p.s. I remember when I lived in Washington Heights, I told myself I'd NEVER live in Brooklyn. Look at me now though! Loving the Brooklyn life! So glad I gave it a chance.
p.p.p.s. Seriously, that Never Say Never Brandy album is bomb!