Hello everyone! It's me Bretony. This week is an on location blog! (See people, this is why I really DO need an iPad! Luckily, I borrowed one for this trip.) I am currently in super sweltering Virginia. I drove down with a few of my friends from NYC to see our super pregnant friend for her baby shower! She is the first one in our friend group to have a little baby boy (due next month), so it's kind of a big deal. Having a baby literally changes your life (obviously). It's an indication of real live adulthood responsibilities. It's not really comparable to anything! Everything else seemingly adult like and grown up can often just be temporary; moving out on your own (you can always move back), getting a fancy new adult job (you can always quit or get fired), even getting married (divorce!). Nothing is as permanent as a bringing a child into this world. It's not like you can shove it back in your uterus if you can't handle it! Party done!
Seeing the actual belly with my own eyes confirms that nothing will be like it use to be. Everyone is officially growing up. But every time we get together, we reminisce about all of our awesome young, wild, ratchetness.
When I first moved to the east coast, I literally only had one friend to my name who lived out here. By the time you get out of high school, it's sort of hard to make lasting friendships since you're no longer forced into an inescapable 8 hour cesspool of raging hormones and power tripping adults five days a week for four years, so that's why I wasn't sure if I'd ever really find people I could get along with that understand me at this point in my life. I just wanted it to be like sex and the city when I moved to NYC, ya know? Fortunately, I soon found my friend group! They have been with me since the beginning of my post Midwestern life, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Finding friends in your 20s is very different from the friends you make in your youth. Back then, you don't even know who you are yourself. We do a lot of conforming and adaptation at that age, so it's hard to determine who we are actually compatible with as opposed to who we are TRYING to be compatible with to avoid ostracism. At this point, I am who the heck I am! Love me or leave me! Once you find people who love you for you, that's when you've found your friends for life. Through thick and thin, and no matter what life obstacles may come, no matter how far we may moved away from each other, we will always be there!
I admit, yes, it is very weird to see the person who I once got wasted with in Miami and went skinny dipping in a thunderstorm, preparing for a life of folding baby clothes and changing diapers. But she definitely knows that we will all be there to help raise the little one! It also makes me think about my life. Am I growing up at all? I feel as though I still live a very young lifestyle. Should I be thinking about settling down? Will I always have this wild and free spirited spirit? I suppose everyone has their own path and we shouldn't compare. I'll get where I'm going when I get there I'm sure. That's probably another reason why my high school reunion thing was weird. Everybody all having families and real careers while I'm still my same earth roaming self! Some people are just like that, I've come to terms with the wanderlust. I know that my friends will still love to hear all the stories, just like I wanna hear about all the grown up stuff in their lives...
Even on sex and the city, they were still all hanging out together when Charlotte had her kid, so I have hope! I just know that it will definitely be different. It's a bit comparable to other types of relationships as well I suppose… This isn't exactly the honeymoon phase anymore, but we now have a deeper connection that surpasses the surface thrill. This is far from the beginning of the end, but simply the end of the beginning…with much more yet to be explored! It's hard enough as it is to get us all together anymore. There are four of us in NYC, and two live here in Virginia for now. Only the major things bring us all to one state. That's why one of us needs to get married next...hear that ladies!?
P.s. Every time we do all get back together, it's so normal for us to just pick up right where we left off....like we see each other all the time! I suppose that's more like family.
P.p.s. She won't tell us the name she picked for the baby! (I still personally think she should go with my suggestion... Bretony jr.)
P.p.p.s. I still think we all need a Vegas trip, but I'm sure it'll be about 3 years before she wants to part with her child for that long!