Sup guys and gals! It's me Bretony. As usual. I gotta start getting some guest bloggers up in here! If you think you can write good motivational Monday articles, feel free to contact me! Anywho, my birthday was last week (as you all know since I mentioned it about 3 times in the last post), and even though I didn't see a huge increase in blog traffic (-_____-), I DID have the absolute best birthday ever!! It started out simple enough, I was gonna go to dinner with just 2 close people. Didn't wanna expect too much, but when I got to dinner, there were like a million people I knew and they were all sitting there at this huge long table!! I didn't even realize I had so many friends. I also have never ever had a surprise party in my LIFE (I'm a tough cookie to trick).
I honestly did not stop smiling the entire time. Afterwards ofcourse I went out to party all through the night, like old people often do when trying desperately to cling to their youth. I had an absolute blast! I really tried to keep expectations low because I know how easily annoyed I usually get at even the slightest of things, and a birthday is NO place for that! Today I figure it's a good a time as any to analyze exactly why I get so irritated!
So in a recent post, I mentioned that sometimes my alter ego Ann comes out (Ann Noid). Ann is one of my unavoidable personalities who I really do try to banish. I guess Ann is inevitable. Even still, I should try to work with her and see exactly what makes her tick. A ticking time bomb really. The science of annoyance has always been very fascinating to me. Outwardly, to people who don't really know me that well, I appear very chill and relaxed...unstressed even. Which I agree, that most of the time, I am! When I'm by myself that is. I am also a very positive person. My friends who talk to me about their problems in life know that my mottos are always "it will be fine...it's not that bad... it could be worse". I've even been told I live in a fairytale land. Is this all just a coping mechanism for my immense internal (possibly irrational) irritation?
The thing is, with me the big things in life usually have little or no effect on my feelings. I have had times where I didn't know where my next meal was going to come from, where I would sleep at night! But I always knew it would work out. However, if I'm waiting in a long grocery line and someone says can you hold my place while I go look for something else, or when someone says the word "bae", I feel my heart rate rising and my breathing gets deeper! What is this backward nonsense!? Where did this all begin? Have I always been like this? So many questions! But questions are good. Questions help me to realize that there is infact something to be questioned (if that makes any sense).
One theory that I do have, is that it comes from my lack of compassion for others. No one really thinks about other people's feelings before their own. Who does that? One reason I've realized that I get so irritated is because I don't really think about where the other person is coming from when they are doing the annoying thing. MOST of the time people are not purposefully and actively trying to annoy you. It mostly comes from our interpretations on the situation. Someone could be chewing way too loud, or even laughing in a weird way that will just send shivers down your very spine. I even admittedly have a pretty annoying allergy cough thing that I do all the darn time. I know it can be annoying, but I'd rather breathe right than be concerned with how other people feel. And that is the general consensus of everyone I think! Even this darn computer sometimes annoys the crap out of me when it doesn't work properly, or it's anciently slow. But is getting annoyed REALLY gonna help? Will it change anything?
For me to be such a zen person, I am really surprised I'm not more internally fluid to everything going on around me. Perhaps meditating more. I like to often daydream about beaches and fond memories from my past. Tranquility is a beautiful thing. We just have to learn to think about things differently. I keep trying to tell you all, our minds are the key to everything! They are the beginning and the end of every problem that we face. Learning how to control our perceptions is probably the hardest thing to learn how to do, but it's possible. We just have to keep being completely honest with ourselves. I know that being annoyed isn't one of the most desirable traits, but I atleast owe myself the courtesy of addressing the matter.
I have got to stop letting the little things control my mood and brain. Even sometimes when I scroll facebook or instagram (each morning, afternoon and night), I am sometimes bothered by the things people post. Why?? Let them do what they wanna freakin do! What I CAN do is express my feelings. Nobody is a mind reader, which is probably often what every one expects everyone else to be. Distractions help when trying not to focus on others. If I was focusing more on what I had to do in life, I wouldn't be concerned with others at all! This just means I have way too much time on my hands. Which I absolutely shouldn't...there is so much I could be doing! Perhaps one day I will be totally zen inside and out! I will keep working on it. It is however healthy to express SOME sort of being annoyed SOMEtimes...or else people will think you're some aloof hippie weirdo. Nobody is happy all the time!
Ann says hello to everyone btw :)
p.s. I freakin LOVE wikiHow and I don't know why, but I cam across this great article about how to be less annoyed. Good stuff!
p.p.s. I really am looking for guest bloggers! Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
p.p.p.s Annoyed faces are really fun to look at...