Have you ever woken up in the morning... crusty face, disheveled hair, drooling everywhere, and thought “Who the heck would wanna wake up to this??” When we wake up in the morning, usually we are in the purest forms of ourself (unless we forgot to take our makeup off from last night). We are rested, peaceful... we are even the tallest in the morning! I know to some I may seem a bit of a wreck, but for some strange reason, every once in a while, I wake up with this over exuding CONFIDENCE! In all of my uncouthness, I realize that I’m actually freakin amazing!
In my life, I have struggled with the concept of self-consciousness probably the most. It’s a terrible feeling to say the least. The thing is, we don’t often realize that everyone goes through it at one time or another too, just most people do a very good job of hiding it. It’s a pretty hideable emotion, and can also be masked by a false sense of confidence (i.e. taking bunch of selfies to make it seem like you really love the way you look, when deep down you are really just seeking approval from others). This use to be me people! The first step to every problem is admitting that there is one. I hate the way I look sometimes, fine! I said it! Once it’s out in the open like that, then you can start addressing the problem and working on ways of fixing it. And by fixing it, I don’t mean surgery (even though sometimes I wonder if a little lip injection ever hurt anybody). The best way to solve a problem is from the inside. Take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror. Well obviously not right now! Finish reading the blog, and then go. Anywho, when you are looking in the mirror, try to look past all of your alleged flaws. Who created this typical standard of beauty anyway? How can a face be flawed? What could possibly be wrong with the flesh that we’ve been growing since birth?? Who ever started saying a smooth face was better than a wrinkly one? All looks are uniquely beautiful! The differences of all the things in this world is what makes the world beautiful. New York City doesn’t look like Los Angeles... does that mean that one is prettier than the other? Why are looks judged so harshly in this society?
Realizing all of these things as I got older really helped me out with my confidence. Changing the way you think about things or looking at something in a new way can prove to be very enlightening. Lot’s of things can contribute to low self esteem though. For me, it was a bad relationship that had the hardest ego blow. I just did not feel confident at ALL. Especially when I was constantly compared to other women. Women who looked nothing like me. I use to really want to be liked. I thought that if I was just a little prettier, people would want to be around me more. I thought beauty would open all the right doors for me. Now a days, I don’t give a darn if someone doesn’t like the way I look, or even me for that matter. And do you wanna know why? Because I like my DARN self! The absolute sexiest quality for anyone to possess is definitely confidence. Not to be confused with arrogance (which is very annoying). Confidence is just knowing that you in fact are amazing and stunning and beautiful in your own individual regard, and realizing that everyone who doesn’t think so is a deranged idiot.
Confidence is also good because it can be related to all parts of your life, not just looks. For example this blog. I absolutely love my blog. I love the way I write, I love the topics I choose to write about, I love the design of this freakin website (I think I did a pretty sweet job for not knowing much about coding). The thing is though, not really that many people read this thing! I know that in this day and age, people hate reading. Don’t get me wrong, I often do too. I get very distracted, as I’m sure everyone does. Sometimes I get sad thinking about how few people are actually reading my precious baby, or if anybody is reading at all. Does anyone care what I have to say? Why should they? (Yet when somebody like Taylor Swift gets a haircut it’s front page news...but y'all don’t hear me though) All things considered, I am still very confident about this blog. I believe that the things I talk about will change people’s lives for the better. That’s why I do it! I want to share all the knowledge from my own personal life journey experiences. When you have confidence in yourself and the things you do, nobody will be able to tell you anything to change that.
It is a process though, take things slow if you can’t go from hunchback in the corner to Naomi Campbell circa 1991. It took me years! What helps for me is treating yourself like a princess. Yes, treat YOURSELF. Who better to take care and pamper you like YOU? I try to always have my nails done (I actually have a huge nail fetish). And whenever I get the chance to get my hair done....let’s just say I’m basically Beyonce’. I also think that when you wear the right outfit, it can be a huge confidence boost. Take yourself out to a fancy dinner. For no reason! Treat yourself right so you can be fully aware when you are NOT being treated right, and know that you simply don’t have to stand for it.
Confidence is truly the key. Also communication, but I will talk about that another day. C words are the key words! (and I just made that up! Genius) To sum it all up guys and gals, believe the beauty that is you. Trust in your life endeavors, and stand up for it's greatness. Don’t let anybody or anything take it away. Put those shoulders back, hold your head high, grow a pair of nuts and give the world all you have unapologetically.
P.s. Beyonce actually has very good confidence music. 7/11 is like the dumbest song ever, but it makes me wanna strut down the street hair flipping on my bummiest days.
p.p.s. I actually do take a TON of selfies. I try not to post them too often though. They are mainly for ME to realize that I'm hot...and to document my ever evolving self.
p.p.p.s NOW you can go do that mirror thing.